by: Ludwig Rosete
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My father told me,"Mark, we shouldn't be silent about this. We should talk about it." I was lying in my room. The door was open. The only light that was turned on was at the living room. It was night time at about 11:00 pm. I was looking at the ceiling and my father was sitting on a stool just outside the door. "There's no sense not talking about it. We should get it done. We're just half-way through."
My mother is workaholic. She likes to do everything hands-on. Yes, a typical self-employed. "Ma, wash my clothes it's dirty and clean my room. It's been messy for days,"I would sometimes jokingly command her to make her realize what kind of a martyr she is. I remember she said she really love washing clothes. Sometimes I would think that is her passion. This reflected on business. She loves to take action right then and there. It's a great character for an entrepreneur. I mean the taking action part but not the hands-on.
Ever since we were kids, my mother holds the money. Both of my parents are high-school teachers. She is the only one who withdraws from both of their ATM's. I think my father do not even know how to use an ATM. "I let your mother take the money because I'm not good at handling it,"he would say. "That's why if I have to buy something for me, I'm just like you. It's like I have to ask for an allowance from her. Or I can run and referee as part-time and then I'll buy something for me with the extra money I earn." I envy him sometimes because he got a lot of basketball shoes. I only have one for the entire school year. "But it's really tiring to do sidelines, you know. Your mother should give me money for myself," he would complain.
"Your father has a lot of money,"my mother would say. "I gave him Php 100 to buy 2 kilos of rice and he didn't give me the change." At that time, 1 kilo of rice was Php 17-Php 23. I hear this all the time. "What he earns whenever he referees in basketball is for himself. He wouldn't give me a penny." Who is really selfish, my father or her?
It's funny sometimes I notice them they try to get me on their side. I'm always dominant in family matters and business decisions. I sometimes look at my deceased older brother as younger than me when he was still here. Our youngest sister have a mind of her own. She doesn't mind what's going on in the family. I have control to where I want the family would go. At least that was what I thought I was.
The year 2008 when I realized that I am bound to be a business tycoon. I was in Manila. I told my parents to retire early because we have to make time in learning business. We can live by reviving the farm. It can really support the whole family. I wouldn't say that we took the farm for granted but we didn't took notice of it too much. When I went home to Davao for vacation, I showed them that building businesses would provide us abundance and our generations to come. They retired and we thought of more businesses other than the farm. They started to read the business books that I read.
When I came back in Manila, my mother initiated to renovate our 2nd home into a rental property. When I took another vacation to Davao, it was 20% finished. It was as if my parents and me are business partners. The three of us would also check the farm. It was about 10% revived. My mother was also starting to spot for more properties to acquire as rental properties.
The travels, transactions and planning was really exhausting. The exhaustion got into us. "I'll go home early. I think you don't need me here anymore,"said my father. To which my mother replied,"What part did you take? I almost do everything here." My father blasted,"Let the crew do it!" Then I am the referee. This kind of picture happened even when we were young. Even when we haven't yet started any business. They grew distant as years go by. They used to go home together. It was world war when they are together as we grow older. And it came to a point when they go home on their own.
Every morning, whenever we hold meetings, there was always a heated conversation. My sister would lock herself in her room and turn her radio on. I heard from my mother that my sister cries every time she witnesses it. I don't mind. I want to get things done. I don't care if I would even shout to my father or my mother, or to anyone. I remember I even slammed the table at their faces because I was so disappointed with how they get off the topic.
One night on one of the heated conversations. Since it was really hard for my parents to work as a team, they decided to separate. My father will live at the 2nd house which is the rental property and my mother and my sis at the original house. The heat went on. My mother wants my father out. He would not have anything and let him live at the streets. My father agreed with pride. He is old and smart enough to make a living. It was the time when I could not control my mother. She became dominant. I think I got her war-freak attitude. When she really gets angry and her ears closed, it's as if she is in blood-lust. It was agreed that they would separate and the businesses will be stopped. Then there was silence.
I was in my dark room. "We started the plan. We can straight things out,"my father continued. "If we would separate, then what would happen?" He was right. "I know. I just let both of you be to make you realize what you just agreed on," I replied. Deep inside me I wanted to say,"Good thing you realize how both of you make stupid decisions." But I also realize how stupid I was.
It's really funny seeing old people realize with there immaturity. When everything cooled down my mother opened up that they really agreed she would manage the money and whatever my father can earn outside their regular paycheck is his. All along I was confused who was selfish. I just knew it when I am at my mid 20's. And every time my father want to go home early, she just couldn't say that she needs his support even just with his presence. Even if he does nothing. Then my father opened up that he also want to do his part. It's just that he is not given the chance since my mother love to do everything. The experience moved us to be honest. And it made me realize the importance of leadership.
Looking back, I'm glad I found Create Abundance 2020 Business Community. It has become a space for me to grow as a leader. As I teach my apprentices and business partners, I get better and better. The most challenging part is finding the strengths of people. I also learn many things from them. I get to know more about my strengths as well.
As we embark the journey to our dreams, here will be obstacles and conflicts. There can also be probability of getting separated. But these are only challenges and opportunities for us to grow into a better person.
Dream and take action!
CA TEAM
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